I kind of resent the idea that I need to get better. Im already better, everyone else has a problem. I wonder if she has any notion of personal space boundaries. Argumentative people are less content with their life (score of 52 . This is so insightful! Argumentative personality types are usually excellent at public speaking and are often drawn to careers in politics, teaching, and activism. I believe the saying hurting people hurt people. I agree that persons with such argumentative personality will be great as political leaders or lawyers. Living or working with those agumentative people is an hell experience of life. This content does not have an Arabic version. Other people, not you, are always to blame for starting an argument. New research suggests that not all sensitivity is the same. He has made a career out of being contrarian, righteous, and argumentative. Wouldnt this be considered just plain narcissism? Despite the popular belief that men shouldn't experience low sexual desire, they often report experiencing it. I also lost friends over it. She is not an asset to your life. The older she gets it seems like the worse she becomes. Sadly I developed into a classic co-dependent over-listener and over-doer as a way to counterbalance my abusive childhood. When it comes to negotiation, they are usually fair but firm, and they are not afraid to stand up for what they believe in. Oh Barbara! I avoid him like the plague, he does dangerous work and everyday I wish he would never come home so my family can have peace. About anything. Now I see my folly but still catch myself arguing uselessly. I soon realized my personality is actually more peaceable, more interested in being a team player, in compromise, and in listening. Oppositional defiant disorder (ODD). Seek professional help from a counsellor. (Lesson: do not give any facts that contradict his.). This argumentative person are total garbage, they might have success being lawyers defending murderers and nothing else. Of course, any attempt at discussing that is met with, you guessed, it, disdain/disgust/disapproval/disagreement and becomes the beginning of another argument. In the same vein, just as a statistical probability that youve not come across not one single reason to even challenge your ideas to anything to the contrary, seems a bit odd. Intuitive types are more likely to approach argument as a means of exploring possibilities, while Thinking types often enjoy argument as an exercise to . The man needs help but since hes always right, theres nothing at all wrong. Example: If we choose to enjoy a dinner out he always asks me where Id like to go. It might result in a compromise, but it wouldnt leave either party feeling good. I wish he just wouldnt bother asking me, because when he does, I know immediately that this is the next opportunity for me to have the wrong answer. Now this is the annoying part, when we get into arguments, she seems to think she can throw any insult at me and knows she can get away with it. Its a control thing for sure!!! It doesnt have to happen ever again. My work colleague/office manager is EXACTLY as the above. I am working to vibrate higher regardless. See my psychotherapy blog for consumers and therapists at How Therapy Works. This can be a great asset in many situations, as Argumentative types are often able to convince others to see their point of view. 3rd ed. I see his posts on Facebook and he is still debating and arguing with others. This behavior often disrupts your child's normal daily functioning, including relationships and activities within their family and at school. Some of the comments here are misinterpreting this for low self-esteem or a way to cope are absoloutely wrong. Theres no right or wrong when it comes to opinions, because thats all they are, opinions!!! It's also no coincidence that this difference correlates with unh. Today I told him I just couldnt take it anymore and, after 12 years of marriage, am debating whether I want to spend the last third of my life (we married in midlife) unable to have a cordial conversation with my primary companion, ideally with a sense of cooperation and mutual appreciation, rather than going at it like prosecution and defense. Even when you are agreeing that you are on the same page they will respond in some way with a redirect about something just so they can turn it back into an argument. Sothis is the claim my friend has. Id like to know some probable reasons why people develop this trait I assume there are conditions in their early life that likely lead to this trait. It truly upsets me because i felt like we were having a really good streak of friendship, and she just tells me I have myself to blame for ruining it.